Sample verdict
Names changed
The question
Should we move the family from Chicago to Seattle for Mei's new senior role?
From Mei's perspective (excerpt)
“I moved for Sam's career twice — Boston, then Chicago. Both times I told myself my turn would come. This is my turn. The kids are 9 and 6; if we don't go now, we won't go.”
From Sam's perspective (excerpt)
“Mei is right that this would be her first move. But the kids have grandparents twenty minutes away and they have a life here. I'm not asking her to give up her career — I'm asking us to find a way that doesn't uproot everyone.”
The verdict
3 for Mei · 2 for Sam — Mei wins
Marisol Chen
Retired family-court mediator · Los Angeles
“Sam, this isn't a referendum on your career. It's a question about whose turn it is to be inconvenienced — and the honest answer is, it's been Mei's turn for a long time. She moved for you twice. That she said yes both times doesn't make a third yes the right answer.”
Bashir Khoury
Software engineer · Toronto
“Mei's account leans heavily on 'I've given up enough.' That can be true and still not decisive. Sam isn't asking her to give up; he's asking her to imagine a version of the family where her career resumes once the kids are older — which, judging by what you both wrote, is what she also wants.”
Excerpt only — full verdicts run several paragraphs from each of five jurors.